Pride month has made me think back a lot to years when I first started exploring my sexuality. I first realized I was into girls when I was 11 years old, a year before starting middle school. At that point, most of the girls in my class were getting interested in guys, had crushes on the guys in our class and found their first boyfriend. I didn’t understand it. So, I started identifying as lesbian, even though I had one or two male celebrity crushes. But I didn’t tell anyone, it didn’t feel safe and it didn’t feel right. And when, at the age of 16, I realized I was not lesbian but bisexual, I didn’t tell anyone either.
Even though LGBTQ+ rights have come a long way, there’s still a lot of work to be done. And with Trump being elected president, Theresa May’s proposal to make a deal with DUP and the far-right gaining popularity all over Europe, LGBTQ+ activism is very much necessary. Whether you’re an ally or part of the community, there are plenty of ways you can actively support the LGBTQ+ community and LGBTQ+ rights organizations. I already shared a list of organizations you can donate to, but since not everyone is in a position where they can give away money, I thought it’d be a good idea to share some other forms of activism and support as well.
Whether you only have a couple of dollars to spare, or got a pay raise and don’t know what to do with the extra money, I highly recommend donating to LGBTQ+ rights organizations. Most of them allow small amounts of money and automatic monthly payments, and even a few dollars gets them a long way. So here’s a list of organizations that either take donations or sell merchandise to fund their activities.
On biphobia, bi erasure, passing as straight and being a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man
When I started planning content for pride month, the first subject that popped into my mind was the biphobia and bi erasure within the LGBTQ+ community, and how being a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man often makes me feel excluded. At first, I wasn’t sure if it was a good idea writing about this, as it’s not the happiest topic. It’s the first year I’m officially out to everyone around me so I wanted this pride month to be all about celebrating my own sexuality. But it’s hard to accept your own sexuality, let alone come out to others or celebrate it, when a big part of the community makes you feel unwelcome, questions your sexuality and debates if it even exists.
The past couple of days, weeks even, haven’t been easy on me. My asthma got noticeably worse after an infection, breathing has become hard, I’m constantly coughing and I’m at a point where I’m starting to lose my voice. My doctor has upped my medication, prescribed new medication and done plenty of blood tests to look for other causes, but things aren’t getting better. I know where this is going, as I’ve been here before.