I’ve been in therapy for almost a year now, and it’s been helping me improve and become a happier person in so many ways. I’m happy I set my fears of being judged aside and took the step last year, and I think everyone should try therapy at some point in their life.
You know what’s worse than struggling with anxiety? The ignorant advice people give you. Some of these people, or probably even most of them, mean it well. They just want to help. But the advice they give is often either patronizing, harmful, useless, or a combination of those.
I’ve struggled with negative thoughts and anxiety for a long time. It has always been there, as a dark cloud following me around and causing fear. I’ve always explained my situation as “only seeing worst-case scenarios and fears, and forgetting about all the beauty and all the opportunity”.
Anxiety and insecurities have had a big influence on different aspects of my life, and especially on my relationships. I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for two years now, and anxiety has always been a part of our relationship. In the start, it was easy to hide it and imagine it wasn’t there, but the more time we spent together, the more my anxiety became a part of our relationship.
I’m a perfectionist. That means I’m terrified of being anything less than perfect. Every mistake, no matter how small, and every little imperfection, no matter how irrelevant, all drag my self-confidence down. I’m a perfectionist. That means that even though I’m living a successful life, I see myself as a failure. When I look in the mirror, I see a mess. A hopeless case. Someone who’s lost. A failure. Even though I’m none of those things. But I’m not perfect, so I must be a failure.