Coming out: I’m bisexual.

Coming out: I'm bisexual

Today’s post is a very personal one, I’m coming out. I’m bisexual. I’m into both men and women. The people closest to me have known for a while. But I never came out, not officially, not publicly. Not until now.

I knew that I wasn’t heterosexual from a very young age but only came to terms with my bisexuality within the past few years. When I was 9 or 10 years old and people around me started to get interested in the opposite sex, I noticed I was different. I wrote about it in my diary, back then.

“Everyone in school seems to be so obsessed with dating and with having sex and getting presents for Valentine’s day. But I’m not. At least not in the way they are. I don’t want to make out with boys like all the girls in my class do. I don’t like boys. I want to get a girlfriend and make out with her. I like girls. I’m lesbian, I think.”

I thought it was fine for girls to be in love with girls.

But the older I got, the more I realized that people hated lesbians and gays. It was considered a bad thing, back then. People thought it was disgusting. So I started to hide my sexuality and the more ashamed I felt because of it. I became scared and I stopped writing about it in my diary, I stopped being proud of it and I stopped believing in it.

And I tried my best to hide it.I dated a few guys, but never fully succeeded in convincing myself I was heterosexual. I proved myself that I wasn’t a lesbian because I genuinely liked the guys I dated, but I was still attracted to girls as well and even had feelings for some of my female friends.

And then, slowly, I started to come to terms with my sexuality. I started to accept that I was bisexual. For the first time in years, I wasn’t ashamed of my sexuality anymore. I told myself that I was bisexual, over and over again, and it felt right. It felt liberating.

I’m into both men and women. I’m bisexual.

Those first few years I didn’t tell anyone, still scared of reactions, but at least I had come out to the person who matters the most, myself. It wasn’t until I moved to Norway, two years ago, that I became proud and open about it. And only this summer I started coming out as bisexual to the people around me, although my boyfriend has known ever since we met.

I finally feel confident to step forward and tell the world I’m bisexual. I remember how liberating it felt when I came out to myself, and I want to feel liberated again by coming out to the rest of the world.

I feel proud of who I am. I’m bisexual. I like men and women. And I don’t care what you think. This is my sexuality, this is a big part of who I am. And I will no longer hide it. I feel proud to stand up, and tell you all that I am bisexual. And I’m supporting everyone else who’s going through the same thing.

Coming out is a big thing, and it’s still scary. But be strong, and accept yourself for who you are. Be proud.

 

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  1. You are amazing and seriously it must take a lot of courage to come out! I am so glad you’re proud of yourself – you really should be! Lovely post xx

  2. Wow Sarah! That’s really brave of you… I’m homosexual myself but I’d never had the courage to properly “come out”… Most of my close friends know that but a lot of people around me still operate under the assumption that I’m straight. I commend for writing a post like this! 😀

    Oliver x

  3. Well done on such an open and honest post! Being gay or bisexual (if we have to label it) is so much more accepted these days but I can imagine it’s still very hard to come out. Go you! Ree love30

  4. I want to give you a big hug right now. This post was beautiful and honest and raw and I admire your bravery of writing it. I’m sure it will give hope to many who struggle with their sexuality, and we can never have too much hope.

    You are a beautiful and amazing individual and I salute you.

    Katja xxx
    http://www.katnapped.com

  5. It must be so hard coming out to people as you don’t know how they will react, I know more people are accepting towards it now than they were 10-15 years ago but it must still be scary telling people. Well done for being brave and coming out, you should feel very proud 🙂

  6. Great post! Be very proud that you have published this! You are so right : accept yourself and be proud. You did great by writing this. I can imagine it’s hard to come out. In an ideal world, it shouldn’t be. Everyone should be free to be who he or she is.

  7. Well done beautiful! I am so proud of you, you make me want to cry. You will be an inspiration to so many people who are too scared to come out and I think its so brave of you to share who you really are. Never be afraid to be you because the real you is awesome. Its ok to like both and regardless of taboo or any arseholes that come your way fuck the haters. You are fierce and that is the end of that. xx

  8. Congratulations! 🏳️‍🌈🦄🌈

    You can now forever use the joke: It’s Adam and Eve, not Adam or Eve. There’s a reason it’s called the BIble 😂

    That’s my favourite for any homophones anyway x

  9. I’m proud and I’m impressed by your bravery and confidence. I, too, am bisexual although this is the first time I’ve ever said it out loud. I had a steady girlfriend for a year and we were very happy. I’m currently married and my husband knows and supports my preferences although I will never act on them again as we are monogamous. Congrats to you!

  10. Great post, it’s so wonderful that you are able to be open and honest about who you are and how you feel. It’s something many people struggle with and some may never be able to do. Your post is really encouraging 🙂

  11. I love this! It takes a lot of courage – and I know it can be really hard for bisexual people because many don’t believe it to be as serious as being gay or lesbian! Thanks for sharing – stay strong!

  12. So proud of you! I think it is really important for others to tell their story, especially as it feels good but it also inspires others to do so. If you would ever be interested in working together, I’d love to have you as a guest writer on our site, love your openness 🙂 xoxo

  13. This is amazing & really inspiring. Not many people are as brave as you. Congrats! Wishing you all the happiness in the world XXX

  14. You are brave and very positive and that’s good! Congratulations! This is your new journey and celebrate it 😀

  15. I look forward to the day when people do not have to “come out” and go through the struggle of being ashamed of who they are and who they love. Thank you for being the badass you are and sharing you story.

    xx

  16. I’ve known about my sexuality since I was younger too, when I told the people closest to me many accepted me but some didn’t. One from literally ran away telling me to keep away from her or she’d get a restraining order and my own mother thought I was doing it for attention, greedy and “going through a phase”. That was 9 years ago and I’m still me and I’m still proud of being bi-sexual, there’s nothing wrong with it or me.

  17. Absolutely. Love has no boundaries and you should be proud of who you are as an individual. It’s your choice and it is right till it feels good within. It’s very brave of you.

  18. I am so proud of you for coming out of the closet. Though I am happily in love with my boyfriend now. I also passed through the phase like you did. I thought I was a lesbian then I realized that i am actually bisexual. I like both guys and girls. A lot of people still don’t know about this but all my close friends do. Stay strong!

  19. Congratulations!!! Being true to yourself and embracing it is one of the best things you can do for yourself 🙂

    PS – This is my first time on your blog, and I loveeee the experience you’ve put together on this site! It’s so nice and satisfying to browse through.

  20. Great post and you´re so brave to tell your story and really honest. I do respect it your honestly. I think nowadays, it´s more easy to accepted it than in the past. Because the people nowadays I think more open minded. Go own your way as you´re dear. You´re great person.
    XOX, Kintan

    http://kintanfashion.blogspot.com

  21. I already read your article yesterday in the train… and I loved it! I’m happy that you came out because I’m sure it’s important to not only let it know to your friends but to everyone… hope the wight now went down your shoulders!