Today it’s been one year since David Bowie passed away. Besides being a wonderful artist and blowing me away with his music, he also has influenced my life for the better on many other fronts.I can honestly say I wouldn’t be the same person I am today if it wasn’t for David Bowie. And I will always be grateful for the life lessons he and his music have taught me.
Taught me to accept my sexuality
One of the most important lessons I learned from David Bowie, is to embrace your sexuality and be fucking proud of it. It did not come easy, though, there was so much taboo and negativity around the LGBTQ+ community back then, that I spent my entire teenage years being closeted. It was later on when listening to his music and watching interview after interview with him, that I started to be more proud and open about my sexuality.
For a man that I admired that much to be bisexual was a pretty big deal to me. He didn’t seem to enjoy talking about it, but he sure never seemed ashamed of his sexuality either. It proved me that you can be bisexual (or any other sexuality) and still be respected and successful, a very big contrast with how I saw the media portray homosexuality while growing up.
And when finally coming out to my friends and family (and on my blog) in 2016, David Bowie was one of the people giving me strength. I listened to all my favorite David Bowie songs (and admittedly also some Lady Gaga) during the hours leading up to it, giving me the courage and the pride to say the words out loud. I am bisexual and I’m proud of it.
Made me feel better about my gender
Although I used to hate the word (and still do), I was what people called a ‘boyish’ girl growing up. I was the only girl in my class who loved watching sports, listened to rock music and loved mathematics. I’ve always identified as female, and still do. But if I would define myself only by what society views as ‘male’ or ‘female’ interests and characteristics, I wasn’t female at all. And I didn’t like that.
I hated being viewed as ‘less female’ or ‘not like other girls’, just because someone decided that playing with barbies is for girls and science is for boys. I hated people in school (and later when going out) telling me over and over again that my interests were fake and that I was just trying to get attention.
But David Bowie to the rescue, once again. He wasn’t afraid to look like what’s considered feminine. With his looks, his music and opinions, he proved me that gender doesn’t have to be defined by set rules. You can be a guy that enjoys dressing ‘female’, or a woman that has ‘male’ hobbies, or identify as both and woman or as neither, or be whatever you want to be, and still be a normal human being worthy of respect, friendship, and love.
Helped me love myself the way I am
David Bowie didn’t just help me accept my sexuality, he helped me accept every single piece of me, and showed me how to love myself for who I am. I don’t mind being different anymore and I would even say I’m proud of it now.
It’s hard sometimes, as people love to criticize each other. Either you’re not wearing enough or too much makeup, your skirts are too long or too short, your boobs are too small or your ass is too big – people always seem to find something to complain about.
But if I have learned one thing from Bowie, it’s to ignore those comments and just be myself. I don’t mind being different anymore. I’m happy being myself. And I’m fucking loving myself.
Gave me inspiration, creativity, and strength
I’m someone who loves being creative, and David Bowie is such a huge inspiration for me. Listening to his music is like an instant creativity-boost, but there’s more to it than just his music. His appearance and his persona’s, obviously, are all wonderful pieces of art. And he has a person has always inspired me in so many different ways as well.
Besides creativity and inspiration, David Bowie also gave me a lot of strength. Whenever I’m going through a rough time, I turn to his music. When I was 15, both of my rabbits died just months away from each other, and listening to Starman over and over again made me feel a little bit less alone. Same happened when my grandma died. This Is Not America brightened the mood a bit after the 2016 presidential elections, Heroes gives me confidence in my future, and the entire Blackstar album has helped me cope with Bowie’s own death.
David Bowie hasn’t only helped to shape me into the person I am today, but he has also taught me how to be proud and accept and love myself for who I am. And I’ll be forever grateful for that.
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