Today it’s been one year since David Bowie passed away. Besides being a wonderful artist and blowing me away with his music, he also has influenced my life for the better on many other fronts.I can honestly say I wouldn’t be the same person I am today if it wasn’t for David Bowie. And I will always be grateful for the life lessons he and his music have taught me.
Having anxiety can be really hard, and I’ve struggled with it for years. The last few months I’ve been able to control it pretty good, and felt happier than ever, even when faced with anxiety triggers. It wasn’t easy getting to this point, and it takes quite a bit of effort, but everything I do to keep my anxiety under control is more than worth it. I’m a stronger, happier and more confident person now, and I’m no longer letting my anxiety sabotage myself. So what has helped me get to this point?
It’s Christmas Eve, and I’m celebrating it in a snow-covered little city in the middle of Norway with my boyfriend, his family, and their dogs. I often get asked why I don’t travel back to Belgium to celebrate Christmas with my own family. I thought today was a perfect time to address these questions and list my reasons for not spending Christmas with my family in Belgium.
Having anxiety is hard. It’s always there, sneaking up on you. When you don’t pay attention, it’s there and it’s taking over your life. It sucks. And it’s everywhere, you can’t turn it off. There’s no escape from it. I hate anxiety. And I especially hate it when it tries to mess with my work life. Because my work and my side projects are my passions, and I don’t want anyone to destroy it. I won’t let anyone take it away from me. But still, anxiety tries to sabotage it, all the fucking time.
You know what’s worse than struggling with anxiety? The ignorant advice people give you. Some of these people, or probably even most of them, mean it well. They just want to help. But the advice they give is often either patronizing, harmful, useless, or a combination of those.