Things I wish I knew when I was younger

Things I wish I knew when I was younger: It's ok to not be ok, there's nothing wrong with asking for help, and more.

Lately, I’ve been doing really well. I feel like I’m getting control of my life, and feeling more and more confident and happy each day. Working on improving myself and being in therapy has taught me so much the past few months. There’s so much I know now that I wish I knew when I was younger, especially as a teenager. Life will have its shitty moments but they won’t last forever. And there’s nothing wrong with asking for help when you feel lost.

It’s ok to not be ok

If I could go back in time and tell my teenage self one thing, it would be that it’s ok to not be ok. It’s ok to feel sad, to feel down, to feel angry or stupid or confused. There’s nothing wrong with taking risks, making mistakes, and there’s definitely nothing wrong with failing. We learn from our mistakes and our bad experiences and memories make us stronger.

There’s nothing wrong with asking for help

Whether it’s related to our mental health, to personal or professional problems, there’s nothing wrong with asking for help. You don’t have to go through all the shit life throws at you all by yourself. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, don’t be scared of reaching out to someone. Asking for help is a sign of courage, not weakness.

Life will have its ups and downs

Life is made out of ups and downs. Nothing is ever just black and white. Sometimes you’ll feel bad, sometimes you’ll feel like you’re on the top of the world, and sometimes you’ll feel both of these things at the same time. You won’t be happy for one hundred percent of the time, for the rest of your life. But it won’t be all that bad either. Some days, months or years will be particularly bad, others will be filled with happiness and positivity.

Nothing lasts forever

People die, relationships end, friends disappear out of your life and eventually all the pain and sadness will fade away as well. All those ups, those beautiful summer days, will have to make room for some downs, cold and dark winter nights. If you’re in a bad situation, you can get out of it. When and how that happens depends on you and the people around you, but life will get better.

There will always be someone who will listen

Whatever happens, you will always find someone who will listen to your story. Someone who will support you, talk to you and help you. There are nice boyfriends, friends and potential friends, therapists, sweet coworkers and random strangers on the internet who will be there for you when you need them. And they’ll listen to you and talk to you and support you. There will always be someone who could use your help, and there will always be someone who can help you.

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  1. These are all pretty much the things I wish I’d known when I was younger too! It’s amazing how well we learn to cope with problems once we’ve had a little more life experience! 🙂

  2. This is a great post and you know, I relate to this a lot. I’m still only 21 but I had such a bad time at school growing up that this knowledge would have been a big help. x

  3. I once wrote a letter to my future self and when I read it years later it made me cry. Kinda backwards but feels like I was a lot wiser then! I’d still go back and tell myself it’s OK not to be OK. That the stuff upper lip rubbish is… well, rubbish.
    Katja xxx

  4. These are all such valuable lessons to learn – I think we all come to similar conclusions as we age and wish we could go back to our younger selves and give them a hug and a ton of advice to make life a little easier to bear!

  5. YES! I wish I’d have known all of these things, too! Especially that it’s ok to ask for help! Great post, thank you for sharing xx

  6. These are so true, growing up is difficult and it would be good to know these things as we do grow. It is okay to not be okay, We have this whole stiff upper lip in England and sometimes we just need to tell people that actually it just isnt okay at the moment